After being married for a couple of weeks, Burl and I attended a large gospel concert. One of the groups was made up of mainly 30 year olds and had a married couple in it. The woman made the comment that she and her husband had been married 7 years. I was sitting beside an older woman who I did not know, but I found myself a little startled by her comment. She basically said that they were just babies and didn't know anything yet.
I understand her point, but at the same time I took a little offense to it. You see, you have to start some where. You can't just be married 50 years. You have to be married a week, 1 month, 1 year, 10 years, etc. There is a starting point, and it is "I do".
By no means do I know everything. I don't even pretend to...In the last 4 weeks and 5 days, I have learned more than I ever dreamed. On September 10th I knew nothing about being a wife. I still don't know a lot, but I know more than I did then.
Burl and I have the advantage of being from families that greatly value marriage. Between our two sets of parents there are over 80 years of marriage. As far as I know, divorce is nonexistent in our immediate families.
Instead of looking down on young married couples, I think we need to encourage them. It is true, they probably don't know what they are doing (I know I don't), but they have taken the first step. They have committed and they are striving to figure this whole marriage thing out. I love my husband and I have no doubt that he is the man God has lead me to, but it can still be hard. We have so much to learn about each other and about our God-given roles, but we have started our journey.
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